Dear Lucy: I work for a company where I get to see a lot of what really goes on because my job is at a low level in the organization. People assume that I am not paying attention because of my status. But I do. What I see is a lot of backbiting, meanness, lying, frustration and little respect for the customer, the boss or each other. I try to be a pleasant team player. My efforts don't really matter. I need my job but enough is enough. I am feeling tainted by all the negativity. What can I do to stay in the saddle?
– Rough Rider
Dear Rough Rider: Sounds to me like everybody is having a rough ride! Here are some things to consider.
If this has been going on longer than three years, chances are it will not change without a drastic change in leadership. You don't control that.
Sometimes, no matter how pleasant we may be, a spirit of anger and resentment when anchored, will not be pulled up by one person's attempts to be nice. You don't control that.
The new bible epic "Noah" hit theaters nationwide Friday amid a storm of controversy.
The $130 million film, directed by Darren Aronofsky, starring Oscar winners Russell Crowe, Anthony Hopkins, and Jennifer Connelly, has received a flood of criticism from Christian leaders who say the director has taken too many liberties with religious scripture.
"Noah" offers a unique interpretation of the timeless Biblical tale of the flood that destroyed all mankind while Noah's ark prevailed through it all.
Dear Lucy: Is it my imagination or is there a new level of interest in things that pertain to women? Everywhere I look, there is something about women's rights or beauty or abuse. There is just so much attention on women now. I don't know whether to be sad or glad. What is going on?
– Confused Woman
Dear Confused Woman: I notice it too. But what I see looks like a long overdue push back.
There is nothing new about feminism and there have been lots of myths around about what it means to be a feminist. To stand up for equal treatment of women does not mean that you have to be female or gay, or liberal or support abortion or atheists or any thing of the sort. I think it is simply enough to expect to be treated respectfully, to be treated equally and to be able to speak your mind without fear of censure.
Rev. Elaine Sanford to keynote Women's Day at St. John Baptist Church
The Rev. Elaine Y. Sanford, who has provided outreach ministry and support services to needy women and children for 20-plus years, will be the keynote speaker as St. John Baptist Church hosts its Annual Women's Day program on Sunday (March 23rd).
The Women's Day service begins at 3 p.m. at the church at 640 Vance Ave. Rev. Sanford is an active minister at Mississippi Boulevard Christian Church (The Blvd). in Memphis, Tennessee.
St. John's Women's Chorus will provide the music, with a reception to follow the program in the A. McEwen Fellowship Hall. The program is coordinated by Sandra Cohns-Jones, chairperson, and Carolyn A. Simms, co-chairperson. The Rev. Henry L. Key is the host-pastor.
Sometimes, a sister has to kiss a lot of frogs before finding her soul mate. In Dr. Nazaree Hines-Starr's case, she had to date a lot of "scumbags," as she puts it.
As a black woman, she had trouble meeting single guys who were at her level "emotionally, academically or professionally. Unfortunately, most of the available African-American men she met "had managed to waste years that should have been spent in college or developing a career, chasing skirts, getting arrested, or playing video games."
Moreover, many had "accumulated baggage" such as "rap sheets" and "baby-mama drama." And even the rare brother who had his act together was never serious about settling down and starting a family.
Benjamin Crump, known to many as the attorney that represented the family of Trayvon Martin as they sought justice for his fatal shooting at the hands of George Zimmerman, will keynote The Conference on Family 2014 in Memphis on Friday (Feb. 28th).
Temple Church of God in Christ is hosting the three-day conference that will stretch through Sunday (March 2nd) at the church at 672 South Lauderdale. Attorney Crump will speak at 7 p.m.
The goal of the conference is to bring people together in a common forum to discuss today's problems and challenges of families, including how to deal with juvenile delinquency, aging parents, unwed mothers, and the social and emotional stresses of poverty.
Dear Lucy: I have a friend who has had back trouble for some 20 years following an accident. She has back pain and has gone to lots of doctors and is overweight from lack of exercise. She has now started exploring alternative therapies that she won't do. The problem is that she is so negative, whiney and mean and has nothing good to say about anything or anybody. I help her out a lot, travel with her and work hard to be her friend and support. But she really doesn't want to be well. She just wants to complain. I hate to desert her but it's making me sick! I am the only one left who caters to her and is there for her. Any ideas. – Pained
Dear Pained: I think this is about both of you. She has set her boundaries for healing and you need to set some boundaries for helping.
About her: Many of us have a low threshold for pain and it's worse when we have to live with it daily. It can make you irritable and short tempered. But there are lots of things out there for pain beyond drugs.