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Setting boundaries for healing and helping

LucyShaw-160Dear Lucy: I have a friend who has had back trouble for some 20 years following an accident. She has back pain and has gone to lots of doctors and is overweight from lack of exercise. She has now started exploring alternative therapies that she won't do. The problem is that she is so negative, whiney and mean and has nothing good to say about anything or anybody. I help her out a lot, travel with her and work hard to be her friend and support. But she really doesn't want to be well. She just wants to complain. I hate to desert her but it's making me sick! I am the only one left who caters to her and is there for her. Any ideas. – Pained

Dear Pained: I think this is about both of you. She has set her boundaries for healing and you need to set some boundaries for helping.

About her: Many of us have a low threshold for pain and it's worse when we have to live with it daily. It can make you irritable and short tempered. But there are lots of things out there for pain beyond drugs.

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Openly gay player Jason Collins makes NBA history

jasoncollins 600Jason Collins not only became the NBA's first active openly gay player Sunday afternoon by signing a 10-day contract with the Brooklyn Nets, but he also appeared in his first game against the Los Angeles Lakers later that same day, ESPN reports.

"I don't have time to really think about history right now," he told ESPN shortly after inking his short-term deal. "The pressure is playing in an NBA game tonight, and last time I played in an NBA game was last April," Collins said. "So I think that's enough pressure right there."

The 35-year-old center entered with 10:28 to go in the second quarter and received a round of applause from the Staples Center crowd.

 

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Could Memphis become a ‘Model City’ when it comes to stopping youth violence?

DoWriteThing 600Efforts to stop youth violence are being fought on multiple fronts, in various ways and in numerous cities and communities. One of the national campaigns – the Do the Write Thing Challenge – gathered and paused for an assessment in Memphis this weekend.

Around the United States, the Do the Write Thing (DtWT) challenge involves thousands of volunteers in citywide and statewide programs. The focus is twofold – engage middle school students and learn what they think causes a young person to become violent, and then to take steps with youth to prevent such violence from happening.

With that in mind, the chairpersons of efforts involving 46 states met at the Peabody Hotel downtown on Saturday (Feb. 22nd). All came ready to share what they are doing, the challenges they're facing and the opportunities they've discovered or created. It's one of two annual meetings and the first in Memphis in about seven years, according to City Councilman Harold Collins, coordinator of the Memphis and Shelby County program. Shelby County District Atty. Gen. Amy Weirich chairs the Memphis program.

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Ole Miss frat suspended, 3 students expelled after noose incident

statue 600A national organization Friday indefinitely suspended a fraternity chapter at the University of Mississippi and expelled three of its freshman members because of their suspected involvement in hanging a noose on a statue of the first African-American student to enroll in the then all-white college, the Associated Press reports.

Sigma Phi Epsilon said in a statement obtained by the AP that it had suspended the Alpha Chapter at the university, and the chapter voted to expel all three men and submit their names and identities to investigators.

The statue of James Meredith was discovered Sunday with a noose tied around the neck, along with an old Georgia flag that bears a Confederate battle emblem.

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